I enjoy my time alone. So on my Friday night of homecoming at Wesleyan, what do I decide to do? Go to Panera and Target by myself to enjoy some quality time by myself while exploring the female wonder: Target. Really though, is there a woman you know who isn't amazed by Target. Not saying men don't love it just as much, but for some reason, I can walk around that store and look at toiletries (like the little glass dispensers and cute metallic soap holders).
Yes.
That's what I
looked at tonight.
Anyways, this is usually what I find myself doing (the whole Clarksburg trip not toiletry shopping) when I'm sick of people and just need to get off campus. It gives me time to think. You'd be surprised how inspiring a glass toothbrush holder can be...
Just pickin'! But it does give me a chance to think. Actually, this very moment I'm sitting at Panera. My intention was to get some homework done, or do some thinkin'. Or blog in this case.
So what would you wear on this adventure? I chose to wear my oldest AE jeans (I think I've had them since I was in like 10th grade), my favorite Life is Good shirt ("The little things in life are the big things"), and my over-sized Walmart flannel. Might I add that my hair is thrown around in a messy braid and I haven't put makeup on since this morning... Goodness, I am one mess. Not hot, just a mess.
These are the days when I usually don't feel good about myself. When I am feelin' all good about myself, I'll wear a dress or at least a cute top or something flattering. This was not that day...
Yet, I manage to get hit on. TWICE! I'm pretty sure God wanted to prove something to me as He laughed one of those snorty laughs and probably got teary from it. I was in shock and have a way of not knowing what to say or do in those situations... So I simply smiled and passed by (I was probably red).
But as I started driving, I was pondering on the comments they made. One was something like, "Hey girl, you need a ride?". And then of course his guys thought it would be cute to chime in and make a scene. Whistling managed to slip out, too. And of course, the famous wandering eyes.
I was slightly sickened. Not because I took offense to it. No, it was kinda funny and even if it is not in a very polite way, it still makes ya feel pretty good about yourself at first. I thought about all the girls who would hold their worth in what those cocky, undeserving guys thought.
Some girls would probably have kept up the conversation. Or taken what they said to heart. Or even sought out further recognition from them, no matter what they have to give to get it.
This bothers me. And I'm not knocking those who do. I just hurt for them. My heart breaks for them because that was me at one point. I would have smiled and remembered that moment for a long time, expecting that's how all men should treat me. But it's not...
Girls, we are God's prized possession (James 1:18). The dude who made the Earth in SEVEN days...
Prince of Peace
Lord of Lords
Our Rock
Salvation
Jehovah
Morning Star
Deliverer
Sacrifice
I could go on forever... This guy is completely astonishing and completely intrigued with every single inch of our being. He created us for goodness sake.
You made all the delicate, inner parts of my body and knit me together in my mother’s womb. (Psalm 139:13)How cool is that? This loving Father is also the lover of our souls. He yearns to have a relationship with you. One that should be the cornerstone of the relationship you have with your future husband.
In my saying all this, I want each of you lovely ladies (sorry guys) to seek after His fulfillment rather than the fulfillment of the attractive guy who lent you a compliment. Is there anything wrong with the compliment? No, but don't expect to find soul-fulfilling commitment in this guy. God can be that to you.
From another stance, GUYS! WHAT ARE YOU THINKING!? Whistling at the girl walking past you is no way to win over a lady. That's what we are you know, "ladies". We like to be pampered and shown respect. We'd rather you tell us we're "beautiful" than "hot". We love it when you initiate conversation by asking how we really are. We seek after a guy who's not afraid to be different and stand up for what's right (that's a total turn on, haha). We want you to lead us by praying for wisdom. We want you to love Jesus even more than us (and that truly is a sacrifice). And we want you to love us because we are everything you could have ever imagined God would prepare for you.
That's what we want as "ladies". And girls, you gotta want it, too. Don't expect them to want you for your gentleness without being willing to show them you are. Seek after Christ and He will show you how to be. I promise, I'm doing it myself.
Well for those of you who don't know where you get affirmation to those who just want to find the right man, I am praying for you. And I'm here for you and I can promise you this...
Search me, O God,
and know my heart;
try me, and know my anxieties;
and see if there is any wicked way in me,
and lead me in the way everlasting.
(Psalm 139:23,24)
One scruffy "lady",
Elizabeth
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